SOCIAL ETIQUETTES FOR KIDS TO MAKE MORE FRIENDS
Along with academics, it is very important to make children learn certain life skills which will help them inculcate adaptive and positive behavior towards any group of people like family, elders, relatives, friends, teachers, etc. and also towards the society as a whole and the environment. Overtime as they grow up, with practice, these social skills will help them in dealing with the everyday demands and challenges of life.
The aim here, is not to achieve perfection, because that is humanly not possible, but to instill certain basic social manners in kids, to help them become responsible and well-groomed independent adults.
- Smile and say hello –
It is the first impression that is made on your child’s friend that will kind of effect the level of friendship between your child and the friend. Hence it’s important to teach the child to always smile at everyone they meet and say a warm hello or hi. Smile conquers hearts and this happens even strongly with kids. A smile can be reassuring to the friend, that “yes, I am going to be your friend, I like you.”
- Shake hands firmly –
The kind of handshake that kids have with each other, also determines if they like each other’s company or not and whether they are willing to be thick friends or not. So teach your little ones to shake hand with their peers in a firm way, as in, hold their hand completely palm to palm for about 2-3 seconds. This practice will also help them as grown-ups when they have to make friends at a later stage and even later, while professional meet-ups.
- Look into the eyes while speaking –
Teaching eye contact to children at a young age, while speaking with somebody, is a very good habit for them to develop because when you look into somebody’s eyes while talking or listening to them speaking, makes the other person feel important and respected, and also reassures them that you are being attentive to their talks. It makes a connection between two people which is good for building a harmonious social life.
- Use the golden words whenever necessary –
What are the golden words? They are – Please, Sorry and Thank You. This is one of the best manners that a person can learn to inculcate in their daily lives right from infancy to adulthood. Saying please for things like asking for something to use or to do with your peer is the start of a great friendship between them. Teaching your kids to apologize by saying “I’m sorry” when they unintentionally hurt someone physically or emotionally makes the other person feel that your child cares for him or her. And when a person feels cared, he or she will value your child more than ever before. Thank you or thanks is a sign of showing gratitude to people, meaning, you value what others have given to you or showered upon you. It could be anything like gifts, toys, birthday wishes, agreeing to your ideas, etc. Teaching kids to be grateful, is the most satisfying feeling because it means your teaching them to derive happiness in the simplest pleasures of life.
- Ask for permission –
Before touching somebody’s toy or book or any other stationary or belonging, a child must be taught to first take permission from the person to whom it belongs whether he or she is willing to let the child take it or not. It’s imperative for kids to understand that things belonging to others are not their property. And, unfortunately if he or she says no, the child must also be encouraged to accept the no gracefully and move ahead. Of course it’s easily said than done, but this habit can be out into practice only by repeated learning and reminders.
- Sharing is caring –
This is the most effective aspect of not just gaining more friends but also to be in their good books. Sharing is best learnt by kids when parents demonstrate it for them. Parents must show how they share things and compromise with other family members or their friends, in front of the child. They must frequently give toys, chocolates or other things to share with their child’s friends.
- Be helpful –
Helping the other person in various circumstances like – while colouring books, your child can suggest certain colours, while playing outdorr games if the friend falls down, picking him or her up and comforting the friend, while stuck in solving a puzzle or any indoor game, etc. In such situations, when a kid is helped out, he or he instantly forms a strong bond with the child and there begins a long lasting friendship!
- Congratulate friends when they win –
This practice is nothing but instilling true sportsman spirit wherein, your child is engaged in some kind of a competitive game and the friend wins, but your child does not cry over it, instead goes ahead, smiles at the friend and congratulates him or her. This gesture, not only motivates friends, but also makes them feel that your child is not a mere competitor, but their well wisher J
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